Tuesday, February 1, 2011

In New York.......

I moved!!  Here I am, staring at a beautiful 19th floor view of the Empire State Building. In other words, pretty darned nice digs and my commute to work is an elevator ride, so no complaints there.

But the transition is not easy. There is the freezing weather issue and the fact that I'm feeling sorry for myself because I don't know a soul in the city.

So many things I can do to meet people- sign up on eharmony (dating provided me sufficient social activity for nearly 6 months after I moved to San Diego and didn't know a soul, so I can always try that here),  join local societies,  find out when the local SMC chapter meets up...but here I am, not doing ANY of those things and just moping while staring at this incredible view. Of course, it takes months to truly settle into a city and I've been here two days and I'm feeling sorry for myself because of the lack of instant gratification.

This blog is so totally my version of cheap therapy..every time I'm stressed/upset about something, just putting it out here makes me feel better and realize what an idiot I'm being--love you guys!
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22 comments:

  1. mycheapviolinFebruary 1, 2011 at 11:58 AM

    Oh I love NY!! And that Alicia Keys song has the perfect NY vibe. The things I remember most about NY though, are the bagels and the hot fudge sundaes. Yummo. I got very fat the two weeks I visited. I was up the Empire State Building New Years Eve 1995/6. Time for another visit I think...

    I agree, blogging is the best therapy! Hope you meet some good people soon :)

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  2. Secret SloperFebruary 1, 2011 at 5:27 PM

    Welcome! I've lived here for 12 years (I think? Maybe 13 at this point?) so ask me any questions you have! I also know a great organization (founded by a close friend of mine) that brings young professional women in the city together for all kinds of activities. It's called Ur.ban Girl Sq.uad. Remove the periods and check it out :)

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  3. Runny YolkFebruary 1, 2011 at 7:20 PM

    OH wow, how exciting! I've never been to New York but it's definitely on my list of places to be. I've moved to new cities alone many times and yah, online dating, a constant source of entertainment.

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  4. HopefulccFebruary 1, 2011 at 7:37 PM

    Congratulations on your big move!! While it's so exciting, it's also pretty scary... but you're doing it!!
    And you're right, it takes months to settle in. The good news is spring is just around the corner (hopefully) and you'll be outside, enjoying the weather, and taking in all the great things about NYC.

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  5. DoraFebruary 1, 2011 at 8:30 PM

    Okay, girl. Are you ready to stop moping and jump in? Sunshine is in CT with her grandmother due to this crappy weather. So I am free after work today. Drinks? Email me. (dorasblog@gmail.com) Next local SMC meeting is this Sunday. I'm planning on going. Join us.

    How's that for instant gratification? ;-)

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  6. Single Mom To BeFebruary 1, 2011 at 8:37 PM

    Congrats on your move! Don't beat yourself up. You've moved from a gorgeous, ideal weather place to the biggest city in the US in the middle of a terrible winter... when it's cold and snowy outside the natural tendency is to hibernate. Make a plan on how you want to integrate into the city... and by Spring I bet you'll be loving it!!!

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  7. KathleenFebruary 1, 2011 at 10:33 PM

    congrats on the move! i love NYC! can't wait to hear about your new discoveries there. and we love you too!

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  8. mnoteacherFebruary 1, 2011 at 10:52 PM

    I'm glad you have an easy commute. I think that personally that would be the only way I could live there. Give yourself a break and then reach out to people. I'm sure you'll feel connected soon.

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  9. TiaraFebruary 1, 2011 at 11:03 PM

    Congratulations on your move! If you're going to just mope about, you might as well do it in an amazing city like NYC, lol! & it's only been 2 days so don't be so hard on yourself! BTW, I don't think you're being an idiot at all...like you said, it's hard to get settled into a city...before long, I'm sure you'll be sharing fabulous stories with us!

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  10. JayFebruary 2, 2011 at 3:33 AM

    haha, yes, that IS instant gratification!!! Will mail you in a bit :)

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  11. JayFebruary 2, 2011 at 3:34 AM

    Thanks Sloper...I'll do that!

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  12. SelkieFebruary 2, 2011 at 7:49 AM

    It has been such a tough winter that I think not much is going on but Welcome to the East Coast. If you ever want to meet up, let me know and I can take a train into the city.

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  13. ThebabychaseprojectFebruary 2, 2011 at 8:39 AM

    Jay, you are going to have so much fun in NYC. The weather will get better. Explore and enjoy!!! I am jealous-- I have always wanted to live in NY, but it will never happen in this lifetime. Maybe I'll visit you one day.

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  14. TurningofpaigeFebruary 2, 2011 at 9:16 AM

    You are very brave to start over in a new city, esp. somewhere so big. I'm sure you'll be socially fluttering around the city in no time.

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  15. JoseyFebruary 2, 2011 at 10:35 AM

    My Cheap Version of Therapy... that's exactly why I named my blog that. :-) Thank God for this blogging world!!

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  16. JoseyFebruary 2, 2011 at 10:35 AM

    My Cheap Version of Therapy... that's exactly why I named my blog that. :-) Thank God for this blogging world!!

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  17. AlexFebruary 3, 2011 at 3:17 AM

    Congrats on the move! Definitely try to meet people by dating and such. It must be hard to meet people - I love that you put yourself out there. And yes, it does take months to settle into your surroundings, so give yourself some time...

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  18. JayFebruary 3, 2011 at 5:03 AM

    hahah...do!! I need company:)

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  19. JayFebruary 3, 2011 at 5:03 AM

    Sounds good....maybe when the world outside thaws a little:)))

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  20. jennyFebruary 3, 2011 at 11:20 AM

    Oh wow - moves are always stressful and adjusting to a new city will take some time. Dating sounds like a great way to get out and meet people, as well as to get familiar with your surroundings! Everyone I know who has lived in NYC just loves it there and I hope you feel the same very soon. Also - I've awarded you a blog award (or three?). If you feel like participating the details are over on my page.

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  21. RandiFebruary 4, 2011 at 12:05 PM

    Congrats on the move. I know how stressful the whole process can be - but before you know if you'll find some comfort niches for yourself. BTW, I've nominated you for the versatile blogger award. you can check out the details here: http://ferventlywishing.blogspot.com/2011/02/cutting-myself-some-slack.html

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  22. GulmoharskiesFebruary 4, 2011 at 6:03 PM

    Came over to your blog from the comment you left on mine. Thank you, Jay. For your support and kind words. I am sorry for your losses.

    I have grieved over the embies I created that did not make it in my IVF/ICSI cycle. I understand it all.


    Hugs.

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