Saturday, June 25, 2016

Still here!

Wow. I cannot believe it has been over 6 months since my last post.  The parenting-related virtual activity for lack of a better descriptor, is still very much ongoing. It is just that medium has shifted from blogging to Facebook groups.

But I still love this space. It is what really helped me keep it together, in the time it took to my baby. I met a mom the other day, and she told me she named her baby the indian equivalent of "victory," because it took her six years to make him. I looked at Gauri, and calculated that it took me 4 years to get to her, and I was staggered because I had forgotten. If you have the kind of psyche that I have, you put past hurts away and forget about them. But that time existed, and you guys were really here for me.

And it has been TWO whole years since I had Gauri!She is growing up to be a tall, tall skinny toddler with rockstar curls that I am not allowed to comb, who gazes lovingly at cookies as she eats them with great concentration (thankfully, oven-roasted broccoli is also devoured with the same devotion), gives random strangers bear hugs, drives her mama nuts by grabbing the toilet brush and waving it around like a sword, and is so, so eager to learn and show off what she knows. She is an incredibly affectionate, sweet, smart child, but there is a healthy dose of the tart to balance the sweet: she is strong-willed with a temper too, and there have been times where I felt like a limp rag after dealing with her meltdowns...thankfully those times are not too frequent.

My next big question is where I will end up in the long run: my job is a wonderful one where I can work remotely from anywhere in the US after a year or two, and a HUGE question is figuring out where I should go. CT, which is where I am now, is not a great long term option.

In addition to great public schools, affordable housing, warm weather, mindset I can relate to, etc, I would also like to find a place that has plenty of other single parent families (I would LIKE the opportunity to date in the future, even if that seems akin to planning a trip to Mars at the present), and that already has friends/family close (this last one is important, I moved to CT having no friends/family in the area, and that sucked). Hitting all these notes is an incredibly tall order, and none of my options fulfills everything on my list. Right now, I am looking hard at Austin, Texas. Feel free to add your inputs about this city, if you have any!